Sunday, June 8, 2014

Compromise

Okay, so here's the deal. I never meant for this to be a parenting blog. Or a life blog. It's supposed to be about writing. But technically, blogging is writing. Right? So as long as I'm blogging about SOMETHING, doesn't that count as writing?

I am still trying to work on fiction when I can, just for the record. I haven't completed abandoned my dream. My priorities have slightly shifted for the time being. Sometimes life just gets in the way and you have to adjust your dreams.

So what I've been doing lately is a lot of soul-searching and reading about how to be a better parent. I mean, obviously I'm making the effort by planning an ENTIRE summer of fun, right? But that's the only part of it. The whole thing stresses me out, honestly. I'm not one of those super moms who can easily guide 3 kids thru the grocery store with no problems. I think part of the problem is that we've NEVER done it before and we don't know how to handle it. Not just me, but the kids too. Not that I'm blaming them. Another scenario...we don't eat out at restaurants very often. Like ever. My husband is cheap and will almost always refuse to eat out. So we've just never done it much. So when we do get to do a fast food place, it's almost always more of a headache than it is worth. And an actual sit-down restaurant? Forget it. Granted, it has gotten easier as they've gotten older...but it's still an outing I'd rather skip.

All of this is new to us. And it requires an adjustment period. So maybe this week, we'll just sit around and relax and let life happen and take it easy. If the oldest wants to play on the iPad all day, I'll let him. If the middle wants to paint, I'll help her paint. The youngest...well...as long as she naps at some point, we'll all be happy.

It doesn't always have to be about planning and doing and keeping up and keeping busy and doing and going. Just slow down and let life happen. Let the experiences happen. Don't try to control everything. No matter what. It just makes you miserable. And if you are miserable, chances are everyone around you is to.

DISCLAIMER: I wrote this post to encourage myself to become a better parent. I can do it. I know I can. One week of summer vacay doesn't define my parenting. The last 8 years are a better testament to the fact that I can do better. Now is the time to take charge and make the change and be the parent I want to be.

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